Wednesday, November 18, 2020

Simple Thanksgiving Menu Planning

In just over a week, we here in America settle into our annual traditions of giving thanks. Not just with words but also with food and fellowship and FLARE. As I mentioned LAST WEEK, I know many may not have the privilege of their 'usual' Thanksgiving festivities or guest list due to lock-downs this year. I am deeply sorry for each one of you whom this applies to. In my Simple Thankful Celebrations post a week ago, I shared how startling it was for me to celebrate holidays alone when I first moved almost 2000 miles away from my childhood home and family and while lock-downs are not exactly the same, the sentiment still rings true. Holidays outside of the "usual" require some imagination and flexibility which can be difficult when we miss our loved ones oh so much. Rest assured, though, God does have a way of filling those voids with something else just as wonderful.

Perhaps, in the midst of all this chaos, you lost your oomf to make Thanksgiving happen, but I am here to tell you - it is not too late. As a matter of fact, if you have suddenly found yourself at a loss for where to begin and how to re-tool the holiday.... or if you just need some direction and inspiration... pop over and read my Simple Thankful Celebrations post from last week and then visit below to see how I setup all the good eats for a comparatively quiet gathering in my home each year.

Let's get this party started!!!!

1. Plan to Assess 

As my kids got older and our guest list grew shorter through moves and seasons of life, we had to admit that the usual explosive buffet needed some downsizing. So much food seemed to be wasted when other bodies were not around to help consume it all. I wanted to be more efficient and certainly more budget conscious as we cooked up Thanksgiving. 

However, I didn't want to make all the cuts and then have someone complain about their 'favorite' dish missing. So, I decided to poll everyone on what they loved most about our Thanksgiving spread. At first I took oral requests but as the kids grew older I had the wild idea to put a "survey" together. We all gathered around the kitchen table as they each filled out individual "surveys" listed with all food we had enjoyed at Thanksgiving past, present and even a few I was considering for the near future. As they browsed the list I took notes while picking their brains on traditions they were passionate about keeping... and new ones they were interested in trying. I wanted to keep the thread of tradition strong while also intertwining elements uniquely us and our situation.

The results were wonderful, some of which is reflected in last week's article. The evening movie to kick off the Christmas season, dressing up to honor the special day, everyone helping cook... all were rooted in this meeting/survey session and has stepped our Thanksgiving game up a notch from being just another day with a bunch of food.... to a special day we share as a family.

If you would like to try this with your family, a free downloadable pdf can be found here. The "Dish" spots are blank so you can fill your own usuals in, make copies and begin taking note. Directions are included:

 

2. Plan to Get Organized

I'm a binder, clipboard, planner gal. For all big (and especially repetitive) occasions that require planning I keep a well curated binder. 

My Fall binder comes out in September and is not tucked away until after reflective notes are added post-Thanksgiving dinner. It holds recipes, previous autumn celebrations notes, thanksgiving menu plans, craft and table setting ideas, and memories. As Thanksgiving approaches I review notes from previous years and consider what will apply to this year as I begin to implement.

A family fave I got tired of hunting down every November so I pulled it out of the magazine it was in and popped it into my binder.


Inspiration

20 year old menu




This was the November I was pregnant with Brooke, you can see how many weeks along I was on each Friday, and the scheduled Baby Shower. This November was hard though, I lost my mom on October 28th that year and spent the first 2 weeks of this month in Chicago for her funeral. We laid her to rest on the 1st... but she lives on in Heaven and in my heart as she was the one who ignited the fire of holiday passion in me ❤

Notes and tips for the next year on the back of a menu page.

Memories ❤

I know most people don't have a binder packed full of 20+ years of Thanksgiving organization, so lets start from the beginning....you can print out the FREE planner pages at the end of this article and clip the ones you find most useful to a clipboard or hole-punch into a starter binder. You can also simply grab a spiral notebook for making notes in. With big events like a holiday dinner, unless you have a fabulous reliable memory (I don't) you'll want a way to track details. 

If you keep a bullet journal, portion off a section for this cause. Be creative, have fun... think of planning as an expedition! You'll want sections for 

  • Calendar/day tracking (even and especially with only a week to go)
  • Menu planning
  • Grocery list making
  • Recipe collecting
  • Craft and activity idea listing
  • General to-doing and alternate list making

What does all this have to do with Menu prep? Well, a lot actually.  Coordinating cook-ahead dishes with other miscellaneous prep-work will help you avoid feeling overwhelmed or over-scheduled.

3. Menu Plan

Now that you have an idea of what everyone would like/not like to have for Thanksgiving and your supplies are together, it's time for the meat and potatoes.... litterally!

What foods have you determined as "musts" for your special day? Begin to list out your menu plan. I've always divided mine into Appetizers, Main/Meat, Sides, Desserts, Beverages. It makes it easier to see and process lest I end up shorting one category or another! The Planner Packet included in this post includes a page like the one below:

Once you determine dishes, check recipes and consider each ingredient. What do you have and what do you need from the store? Make a list as you go so you don't forget anything. Again, the printable menu worksheet in my packet has an area for listing out groceries needed. If multiple dishes need the same ingredient (like butter or cream cheese, etc) write it once and tally mark next to it for each additional requirement.

4. Plan to Cook

Word to the wise: DO NOT cook EVERYTHING ON Thanksgiving. You won't be a happy camper... nor will anyone you live with!!! My packet has a page for this as well, but seeing how we are down to the wire, I will share a special extra with you:

This one is great for a clipboard and keeping track. Here is how mine looks so far (I just started filling it out today!!)

I usually start getting this page together at the beginning of November. Now that there are less of us and less food, I'm Ok funneling everything into the last 2 weeks. I use this alongside my Thanksgiving menu and begin to ask, What can I make ahead. If you check Pinterest or many homemaking and cooking magazines you will find a treasure trove of tips and tricks to spread the cooking out. I'm not a big fan of pre-made rolls, gravy or turkey (that's just me) but I do make ahead certain baked goods that will keep.

We usually do an assortment of sweet bread for Thanksgiving morning breakfast. I'm working on that every-other-day this week. I make a BUNCH and froze because some of it will be shared with neighbors at Christmastime as well!

I like to make my pies the day before. While I have pie crust going I just knock them all out, cooking the cooler baking one first and the warmer one last. With just us, we usually have pumpkin and a crisp. (this year I am doing Apple Cranberry Crisp)

Jellos and cheese balls are also a day-before task requiring a process which includes setting up overnight. 

We opted for a new tradition a few years ago: Christmas Fudge! Like Santa capping off the Macy's parade and ushering in our favorite season, fudge is the special treat and hail to Christmastime now officially arrived. It can be made anytime before Thanksgiving, we are going to work on it Monday.

Veggies (not potatoes) are usually cut the day before as well along with cheese and sausage. Bagged up it will keep just fine in the fridge until we are ready to serve on Thanksgiving.

Biggest tip: BE REALISTIC. Consider the amount of time and prep-work each dish will take and don't over-schedule. Invite all hands on deck with certain tasks as well! 

In the schedule you see above, I break Thanksgiving down into time blocks. I'm buying my turkey today and once I see how big the bird is, I can begin filling this spot in. (Size of turkey x minutes per pound to cook = total cook time). I will consider what time we want to eat and walk roasting back, planning to pull old Tom out about 45 minutes before we are ready to serve him. This leaves ample time to bake up things like the Green Bean Casserole.

As you consider prep time for day-of, work the side dishes into your schedule as well. Think prep and cooking and how to maintain dish warmth so the whole meal is toasty warm when plated. Some examples:

  • Casserole takes about 10 minutes to prep and 30 minutes to bake. Turkey comes out at 1pm, start working on casserole at 12:30, set aside and pop in as soon as turkey exits oven.
  • Potatoes take about 30 minutes to prep, 15-20 minutes to boil, 5 minutes to mash. To serve hot, begin around 12:45. (incidentally, 2 tips I have learned: peal potatoes early and soak in water so they don't brown. It saves a last-minute potato peeling craze when dinner is on approach. When ready to cook, drain and rinse and place in pot of fresh water to cook. Alternately, make mashed potatoes earlier in the day and placed finished product in a slow cooker on low to stay warm until dinner. No last minute hassle at all!

I could continue with examples but, for now, I hope this makes sense. The last hour before dinner IS a juggling act but it is one you can manage quite confidently with a clear plan (and especially if you have a little help) and multi-tasking.

5. Plan To Be Ready and Have Fun!

Inside of my planning I begin to fit other tasks around the food. 

  • Getting tablecloths out and ironed
  • Managing place settings
  • Plotting buffet arrangement
  • Collecting serving platters and making sure they are clean
  • Tidying the house, even if it's just us
  • Having supplies gathered for games or crafts

I will take each of these tasks and others, including regular daily to-dos, and filter them in where they can work and, again, not be overwhelming.

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Just because Thanksgiving may be different this year, doesn't mean it should be forgotten. Keep it special, however small or big your feast is. This celebration is a bright light preparing our hearts with gratitude and a deeper appreciation of our Heavenly Father. This preparation makes those twinkling lights brighter as the Christmas season approaches and we shift our focus to the greatest blessing of all ❤

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If you have any questions or tips to add, drop me a message in the comments section below! Here is the printable planner packet, click image to open the FREE pdf:

And a little something extra:

 

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Blessings for this Thanksgiving season!




 







 
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Monday, November 16, 2020

Menu Monday 11/16/20 Hope for Holidays

 

As the end of the week approached, headlines began to broadcast: THANKSGIVING IS CANCELLED, or at least that is the summed up version. Cities, and some states, country-wide are cancelling or limiting what families are "allowed" to do with the Thanksgiving holiday on fast approach. It is heartbreaking.

I don't want to get into the political debate on the issue here... I know everyone will have their own persuasion on the matter. What I will say is this: don't let mandates and orders steel your joy. You may find yourself modifying your Thanksgiving menu this week in preparation for next week's big day. But before you do anything drastic, may I recommend my article from this past Wednesday, "Simple Thankful Celebrations", it shares my experiences with trimmed-down holiday fare and makes recommendations for keeping Thanksgiving special. The executive summary: you can still make Thanksgiving (and other holidays) memorable even inside of guest list changes. Focus on Thankful and let the giving, fall into place!

So, go ahead, hop over to the link in text above and check that article out. There are also FREE pdf printables for you to download and use as you prep for the holiday.

This Past Week

After trying to add desserts into various nights during our week, my plans failed! We did manage the Apple Cobbler, which was DELICIOUS, but also not so healthy! 3 out of 6 of us are trying to be mindful of our sugars and calories so no mid-week dessert made it to the table. I did, however, keep something sweet and fun on the menu for Friday since once in a while isn't as bad as 3 nights a week with added leftovers of sugary goodness!!

Another wrench in our menu plans was tummy trouble. MIL was having stomach issues this past week. I don't know how much was nerves because of various doctor's appointments and how much was....? But hubby picked up tummy trouble halfway through the week as well so it may be a bug... or a health problem popping up. Not sure which. So meals were adjusted as we went and, this coming week, I am planning a more bland menu. #midlife

This past week I also did a deep clean on my stove to prep for all the holiday baking. If yours gets as messy as mine, I highly recommend a pre-baking season clean to avoid excess smoke or potential oven/stove top fires. 

 

I also scrubbed down my kitchen sink, which may seem like a bland point to bring up but my sink is an old cast-iron one and requires special attention to look nice. I videoed the process and am going to "try" to upload to Instagram for a weekly thread I am considering: Messy Mondays! I've felt inspired lately to share PROCESS and some of the not-always-seen imperfections of life as we cook and clean and live. If you are interested, come give me a follow on Instagram (if you don't already!)

Now, on with what we cooked up this past week....

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Sunday  

Breakfast:  *Eggs and Turkey Sausage

Lunch:  Potato Soup

Dinner:  Havarti and Spinach Stuffed Chicken with *Baked Potato and Green Beans (was going to serve this with Quinoa but went a more traditional route) Week 2 of a Sunday Dessert was this Apple Cobbler recipe (only, I used 7 cups of my apple tree apples in place of their recommendations)


 

The Stuffed Chicken was a recipe I invented based on magazine inspirations. I made a promise on IG that I would share details today so here goes:


Need:
Chicken Breast, filleted and tenderized (pounded flat)
Fresh Spinach
1 pkg Havarti Cheese
butter softened or even melted
olive oil
Dried herbs: basil, garlic powder, onion powder, parsley
toothpicks

Preheat oven to 350° and grease a 13x9 baking dish. 

I started by pouring approx 1/3 cup oil into a medium sized metal mixing bowl and stirring it together with approx 1/8 - 1/4 cup butter. Then I mixed in approx 1 tsp each parsley, garlic and onion with about 2 tsp basil (I didn't measure exactly on any of this but did it to what seemed appropriate to our taste). Once this was mixed, I set it aside. I had halved/filleted and pounded 6 chicken breasts which came to about 12 pieces of chicken but I only used 8 of these. I laid the Chicken flat, lined a rough double-layer of spinach leaves and a single slice of Havarti on top. Then I rolled it up in a sort of tri-fold manner and secured it shut with a toothpick. After it was ready, I dredged it through the oil and herb mixture and set in baking dish folded side up, leaving space between each chicken roll. Finally, once all pieces were prepped, I popped it into the oven for about 35-40 minutes, I removed them when they were just starting to tan a bit on top.

This is our new favorite way to have chicken!!! So moist and full of flavor! If I was to do one thing different, I might include some pesto either on the outside or inside. Because the chicken is so thin from being pounded out, you really don't need to worry about under-cooking it either.

 Monday   

Breakfast:  Eggs and Turkey Sausage

Lunch:  Leftover Potato Soup (had planned BLT)

Dinner:  Steak, Herb Roasted Carrots, Green Beans, Garden Salad and a hearty slice of Fresh Bread

Tuesday   

Breakfast: Breakfast Bowls (Scrambled Eggs, Sausage, Cheese)

Lunch:  *BLT and Chips (in place of planned grilled cheese)

Dinner: Stir-fry Chicken

Wednesday   

Breakfast:  Breakfast Smoothie and I *tried my hand at mini bite-sized pancakes per Brooke's request. They were cute and tasty! (I should have taken a picture!!)

Lunch:  Grocery Store Chicken Strips and Chips (had hoped to offer Leftover Stir Fry but I didn't have enough)

Dinner:  Stuffed Shells, Side Salad and French Bread

note: I doubled the cheese stuffing recipe and it would have been great, except, it was lacking substance. It made twice as much as we could eat so I lined a freezable baking pan with the leftovers and tucked them away. When I bring them back out I plan to sprinkle the top with Italian seasoned meat and possibly some spinach.

Thursday  

Breakfast: Breakfast Bowls

Lunch:  *Baked Potato (I wanted to have leftovers but dinner ended up upsetting hubby's stomach so I packed it away pending modification)

Dinner:  Pot Roast and Veggies

I tried using my Pressure Cooker, again, and it failed, again, to make the perfect Pot Roast despite using a good cut of meat and following the directions. We ended up having to slice the roast and pan fry to cook the center which was still VERY raw. Honestly, it did NOT taste that great and I am officially swearing off Insta-Roasts! I already have a GREAT oven roasting recipe I need to stick with.

Friday   

Breakfast: Eggs and Sausage

Lunch:  Pot Roast Stew for some, *Baked Potato again for others

 

The one good thing with the roast was making leftover stew. I cut the meat into bite-sized pieces and threw them in a small pot with the leftover gravy and veggies to produce creamy goodness!

Dinner:  Shredded Chicken Tacos in the slow cooker and Homemade Brownies for Dessert

Saturday   

Breakfast:  *Eggs and Sausage (planned Breakfast smoothie)

Lunch:  Leftovers

Dinner:  Burgers and Chips

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So that was my week in the kitchen... what does yours look like? Is your Thanksgiving due to be altered on account of local policies? Are you planning for the big day yet?

This passage has been encouraging me to not give up on doing good and plugging ahead for others this week. Do you have a verse spurring you on right now?

Happy cooking and prayers hope in the holidays!




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*** Why the asterisks? ***
Planning ahead with menus is always a good idea. It helps to stay on budget and balanced in diet... but lets be real, not every day goes as beautifully planned. I know, when I was a young wife, I found menus fascinating but was also often quickly discouraged by how hard it was to stay-on task. As I collected kids and schedules and all those unexpected demands on my time, I learned how to juggle. I like to alternate meats, spice levels and the nutritional balance from meal-to-meal and day-to-day. I also like to try 1-2 new recipes each week, though some weeks are all old favorites! I hope, seeing not just what we ate, but also how it changed, encourages you to menu plan and give yourself grace and flexibility to change it up a bit when needed! 
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For an old article on one way I've done menu planning (free printables included) you can visit:

Menu Monday: Menu-Making Edition!






 
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Saturday, November 14, 2020

Choosing Gratitude in Humility

 Reading this week in Philippians 1:27-2:18

Be Kind. Everywhere I turned this week, I kept seeing that statement. Be Kind. No ifs, ands or buts... simply, whatever you do, be kind.

I don't think of myself as an unkind person. With the wear-and-tear of life, I do feel I have become more blunt. On busy days I often forget the need for niceties and even act a bit abrupt. But kindless... nope, never considered myself in that light.

Yet, there I sat, multiple times this week, bluntness and abruptness painting on a veneer of unkindness. I felt so bad.

To my family, I gave way to fear and left them hanging when unexpected compliments were paid.

To my Call, I forgot the Greatest example of a servant heart... without complaining, without remorse, counting others more significant than self.

To my Jesus, I neglected His life coursing through me, giving me all I needed to leave blunt and abrupt behind and instead reach for grace, peace and KINDNESS.

I didn't do the best job of working out my faith.

As I walked through the Philippians study day-by-day this week, the tests for each lesson were almost instantaneous and they were not without context.

You see, in the ancient Roman world, when Paul was writing his letters, society was a very ME-centric place. Promoting self, serving self, monopolizing on ME time, were corner-stones of the secular culture. When Paul is calling the believers to live "worthy of the gospel" he also knows how POWERFUL this counter-culture lifestyle will be.

He starts by calling them to unity, as the body of Christ (2:1-5). He then gives them an example, by the life of Christ (2:6-11). It is certainly a surreal point to hear the Call and think, "I'm trying!" only to see the Example and realize, "I can try harder."

The fact is, as much as we don't want to talk about this in today's society (or even in Paul's society), what we do, good or bad, directly impacts someone else's path through this life and into the next.

Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life,
but he who rejects reproof leads others astray.
~ Proverbs 10:17 ~

God desires a closeness with his followers and, just as much as this personal relationship with us, he also desires that others should join in as well. Our walk with Him becomes that steadily burning candlelight in the darkness of a lost world, drawing those with eyes to see closer to light and truth.

Enter Kindness.

An attribute I believe to be best exemplified by humility. Kindness isn't always easy. Daily we are faced with situations and people who test our ability to be kind, to show love and to act humbly. When Paul states, "Do ALL things without grumbling or disputing..." in 2:12, it seems reasonable to state; do every.single.little.and.big.thing with kindness and humility. He suggests, by following this command, we will be "blameless and innocent, children of God...." Children because we bare His image in those humble acts: Christ did not grumble nor did he dispute all that was done to him. He fed thousands with love and grace. He healed many with peace and kindness. He even countered the nay-sayers with truth and self-control.

At the end of the day, kindness and humility not only unify us in the body of Christ and grow us as image-bearers, but, as we hold to the word of life (2:16) we shine as lights in the world.... in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation. Not separate from them, but right smack-dab in the middle.

This world is full of a lot of crazy right now. Don't loose heart. Find moments of gratitude, even if in the simplest things, and allow that gratitude to feed kindness and produce humility... to serve those around you with love and grace.... and to shine in this world in spite of whatever it tries to throw your way.

Do you struggle with doing "ALL things without grumbling or disputing"? Take heart, let gratitude be your guide❤

  Blessings,




**This is part 2 in a month long series on "Choosing Gratitude" from a guided Bible Study I have written of the same name. Click below to get your FREE pdf and join me! I had planned on Mid-Week Messages for this series but have opted for end-of-week sum-ups for reflecting. I am also sharing scripture daily on Instagram from this study and hope you will join me there as well!**

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Wednesday, November 11, 2020

Simple Thankful Celebrations

Thanksgiving is waddling ever closer and life, for many, is still in a state of lock-down or restricted limbo. If you are use to celebrating with a large crew in tow, this year may be a hard adjustment. Or, perhaps, you usually abide by simpler more intimate holiday celebrations. I have been in both boats, mostly the second one, for the bulk of my adult life.

Growing up, I was surrounded by a very large family. Holidays were a bustle and the meals were a feast. When I married and moved west 28 years ago I had to leave all of that behind. Some years our home bustled with friends or family who happened to be close for a season. But mostly, none have ever compared to the vast display I had known in my younger years.

I missed it so.

Thus began my mission.

My first Thanksgiving away was intimate. Husband and I and a couple of roasted Turkey thighs with trimmings. It was quaint. By year two, however, we longed for the bustle and so, invited friends to join in. With guest contributions and a determination to fill every single gap with all the old favorites from my childhood, the counters and tables were consumed with an array of goodies.

Every year since, the guest list has fluctuated. Kids have been added. Houses have changed. One thing has stayed the same: BIG meals. Hubby brags to visitors with great animation as he relays the spread we enjoy every Thanksgiving (and Christmas and Easter). 

But more than food is the company. Growing up (and on the occasions we have enjoyed guests) there was always the buzz of talk, trading recipes, and playing games. As more moves and life situations prompted less Thanksgiving guests and more isolated celebrations, I knew I had to once again get creative. Perhaps it has been for such a time as this.

With the continued restrictions on gatherings and travel in some areas, I recognize that many are faced for the first time with the daunting task of making holidays meaningful with a much smaller gathering. Here are a few ideas I have worked up over the years to keep Thanksgiving from being just another day and instead celebrated and commemorated as the wonderful occasion it is.

Go Ahead, Cook All The Food!   

If you like to cook, COOK! I know it isn't for everyone. But still, if you are used to all the trimmings, have them anyway. Ask Aunt Karen for that Carrot Salad recipe she always brings (I'm sure she'd welcome the phone call!) and reach out to Grandma Dorothy for all her tips and tricks on making the perfect turkey. Splurge on the ingredients and go all out, breaking out the serving platters and setting up the buffet. 

My reasoning.... the time cooking up to and on Thanksgiving, buys me time for decorating on the days after!! I can throw myself into Christmas decor all weekend knowing all I have to do is re-heat leftovers and serve them on some Chinette. AND, essentially, the money you spend on the meal is the same as you would spend on dinners for the amount of days leftovers will buy you.... only you cook once and eat a bunch!!

On that same note, DON'T cook what no one in your household likes! In my home, NONE of us like jellied cranberries so, unless grandma, who likes them, is coming over, we don't buy them!!! There is no sense in having a dish that won't be eaten. It is OK to change up the menu! As a matter of fact, our first year in missions work we weren't able to get a turkey but someone had given us deer.... we had deer stew and pumpkin pie!!!! I reasoned that the Pilgrims had deer.... (and eel and turkey...) so it was still patriotic!

All Hands On Deck

Hold a family meeting and start with this question, "What makes Thanksgiving meaningful to you". You can follow up with questions such as, "What dishes... traditions... would you like most to have?" Be sure to keep a piece of paper on hand and jot down everyone's input.... don't neglect asking Hubby, he will have definite thoughts too. 

As my kids grew and changed we would revisit these family meetings to address transforming ideas. Once they were old enough to take over simple dishes I began asking what ONE dish they would like to make for Thanksgiving. They would be in charge of that dish for dinner. I would supervise and provide the resources but they would do the work. It not only taught them how to cook that dish but it also gave them an opportunity to learn responsibility in contributing to the meal!

Also have them help with table and buffet set up as well as straitening up for dinner (as if company was coming). Give everyone breaks and free-time, but DO also include them in the process of making Thanksgiving stand out, regardless of the roll-call when dinner is served.

Make Dinner Stand Out  

(We don't drink wine but we do buy sparkling cider for the holidays, it is non-alcoholic)

I set the table with my best tablecloth, place-mats, cloth napkins, candle sticks and so on. We make it look like a fancy 5-star restaurant only it is home! I place butter dishes and gravy boats out and the buffet always looks fancy as well with silk flowers and more candlesticks. 

To add to our tablescape, I like to make special place cards and/or napkin rings. When the kids were small we considered it a school project the week of Thanksgiving. TP tubes and construction paper and a table full of raffia and unpopped popcorn and other miscellany would always add pizazz to their project! Now that they are older I have gone for more mature embellishments. You can visit this blog post, "Keep It Simple", for a pictorial step-by-step of floral place card holders using Dollar Store supplies and inexpensive scrapbook paper.

As part of the ambiance and wanting to make sure everyone really feels as though this isn't just another meal, NO ONE is allowed to come to the table unless they are dressed nice. I don't require ties (though that would be classy too) but I do expect nice attire. Hubby and son usually don a button-up and the girls and I find a nice dress or classy blouse, put on jewelry and fix our hair. It may seem trivial but how we dress really affects our perception.

Direct Dinner Conversation and Post-dinner Activities

Perhaps your family does great at dinner convo.... but if bodily functions or gaming and superhero references threaten to consume an enjoyable meal, spark some collective conversation. We like to do Thankful Fors at dinner which always lead down rabbit trails of hearty discussion and keep us all engaged together. You can also discuss Christmas season plans, wish lists or play a game of "Would you Rather" while you eat.

As far as activities, when a crowd is expected everyone just seems to find a niche and the time flies. Kids want to share their toys with cousins and friends, teens want to talk the latest movie or try to best each other in games and adults catch up on work and pass-times. When you suddenly find yourself void of all these additional distractions you will be surprised how loud those crickets are pre and post dinner. Suggestion? Have a plan.

Now, don't make such a strict plan that it is stifling, but, discuss with hubby and perhaps the older kids what you might like to do after dinner.  Plan games or a walk or a movie (we may try this game this year from Samantha Shank at Learn in Color). We started a tradition our first year with just Hubby and I and kids of watching "The Santa Clause". We check the first one off our holiday movie list on Thanksgiving and then watch each sequel on the two subsequent weeks as a family movie night! 

Filling this pre and post dinner time with fun activity will help keep the day memorable and special. It will also help make missing the 'norm' a little bit easier to bear.

Plan the Day   

As mentioned, planning various points of your day can be helpful. More than general ideas of what to do before or after dinner, specifics can help even an intimate setting go more smoothly and be more relaxed. When company is coming (or you are going) you always have a plan. 'Turkey goes in at 7, watch the Parade at 8, prep potatoes at noon....' Just because it is you and household doesn't mean plans go out the window! 

For years I have used the above planner to help me stay on track. The week-of plan page in particular has been invaluable. Next week I will share a bit more about my detailed food prep plans. Plan the timing of food prep, note where you will need help and if kids are contributing, and roughly plan out post dinner activity. I promise, it will relieve so much stress.

Start a New Tradition      

It is never too late to start new traditions. Perhaps try a family craft or singing songs together or playing a certain game. Instead of lamenting what is lost, focus energy on trying something new!

In Times Such As These   

If you are unable to be with loved ones because of restrictions, try these points to feel closer together:

  • Everyone shoot for dinner at the same time so, even though you aren't "together" you can feel united.
  • Exchange recipes so each of you has a full set of holiday favorites (recipe card printables below!)
  • Skype/Face Time/Zoom call at an agreed-upon time, perhaps just after dinner or while the turkey roasts. If after dinner, you can play a trivia game or share "I'm Thankful fors..."

 

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Change is hard, especially during a typically family-packed holiday. But it can also be a motivator to try new things and enjoy new experiences. The Apostle Paul encourages us not to be anxious. After prayer AND thanksgiving he challenges us to recognize the Peace of God which is beyond human understanding and guards our hearts and minds. We can't focus on what isn't or what we can't.... instead, we must draw our attention to what is and what we can.

Do not be anxious about anything,
but in every situation, by prayer and petition,
with thanksgiving,
present your requests to God.

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding,
will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

- Philippians 4:6-7 -


You've Got This! Even in the midst of unexpectedly simple thankful celebrations! If you have any tips or ideas for celebrating 2020 style, please leave comments and suggestions below!

Blessings for this Thanksgiving season!




 







 
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