It has, inadvertently, become an "office day". Stuck inside, on the computer, but blessed to be able to take care of some things for the people we are working with. My hubby flits over to Facebook on the computer next to me and we see someone dear to us in the midst of marriage problems, young, and airing it on the web.
My heart breaks, their 1st anniversary not yet celebrated, their young 18 years of life marred by family dysfunction... they just don't know what marriage really is yet.
Sadly, I didn't know either. 18 years of life, saying "I do", family of dysfunction... 4 years later I said "I don't", 2-year old in tow. Marriage was disposable, life was collateral. I had no clue. I was a tornado ripping through, not just my life, but everyone else's. I was in pain and I had no measurable line to tell me what life was, what love was, what marriage is meant to be. All I knew was, you hurt me - I hurt you.
A year after divorce I was stepping into relationship and marriage again. Unbeknownst to me, the master marriage counselor stepped in too. He showed me:
Marriage is NOT perfect.
God calls us to look past all that. To SEE with the HEART. To know someone's hurts, past, hang-ups and ugly spots... and love them anyway.
God called ME to love with my every breath in-spite of my every hurt. And so I did. And I learned
People find truth
People find loyalty
People pay attention
GOD restores every piece of every dark and shattered spot. All people have to do is ask... lean... trust... hope.... and know:
sometimes it takes time
sometimes we grow up while we wait
sometimes we just grow
sometimes it feels like no time will ever come and
sometimes it comes just-like-that
In a blink
and life moves forward on this crazy marble we call earth. Spinning and living and learning.
Marriage is NOT easy, not one bit. It is the daily choice to love another person more than yourself no matter what. After all... don't we want to be loved, no matter what back?
But first, God
the rest will follow.
God and We and love and forgiveness and hope will follow.
Forgiven... forgiving... every-single-day,
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